Why I Love (and Hate) Being an Indigo Child

Why I Love (and Hate) Being an Indigo Child

If you had asked me when I was literally a child if I thought I was an Indigo Child, I would have said no. Even if you asked me if I thought I was special or different, I would have said no.

Back then, I was trying VERY hard to be normal and the last thing I needed was people going around saying otherwise. And I wouldn’t have told you anything about my “imaginary” friends or lucid flying dreams or sadness over knowing that our planet might someday explode back into a bunch of gasses (my mom actually caught me crying in my closet one day over this possibility).

Those were things I learned to keep to myself.

It sucked hiding so much of myself while I was growing up. But it also allowed me the room to become myself without a limiting label full of expectations and preconceived ideas permanently attached to my identity. I was safe in my silent thoughts.

But not totally safe. I figured out quickly that people didn’t appreciate my intuition. They wanted reason and logic and science, not gut feelings or universal wisdom. So I pushed it aside and tried it their way… which worked great for everybody but me.

Trying to fit in and not listening to my intuition made me an easy target in the world. I worked for people who had no intention of paying me, I made friends with girls who spread rumors about me to make themselves look good, I even married a guy who was abusive physically, emotionally and financially. It was exhausting living like that. It sucked.

So I quit. I went looking for something else… for myself.

I remembered feeling safe as little girl and having this inner sense of knowing. I didn’t have a word for my intuition, so I started Googling stuff until I found it. I was deep in an internet rabbit hole of Google searches when I came across some information about Indigo Children and everything clicked.

I’m still on that mystic journey of figuring it all out. I get a little less basic every year. I’m learning to enjoy the stuff that comes with being an Indigo Child like being empathic, energetically intense, really good at meditating and able to interact in multiple dimensions at once (I’ll show you later, it’s actually easy, fun and very useful).

But the thing I love most about being an Indigo Child is working on my life purpose.

That’s where you come in. My life purpose is actually more about you than me. I’m here to help you figure out who you are and get yourself straight so you can work on your own life purpose. I’m here to inspire and motivate you, to lead the way and to connect you with other Indigo Children.

It’s not easy. Indigo Children are uncooperative, aggressive and intense. But we’re also brilliant, visionary and totally magical.

I’ve always been comfortable writing and even got a degree in journalism once, so I figured a blog was a great way to handle this life purpose mission of mine. I thought I could write articles and you would read them and there could be ads on the side that would pay all my bills. You would get to know everything I knew for free while I hid in my house typing away in sterile introverted bliss.

I was a dumb dumb.

Everybody liked the stuff I wrote! But the ad money was a joke and I got overwhelmed with people asking for help. The articles were nice, but they weren’t enough. Some people acted like I was a big corporation (I’m just a girl) and had all kinds of unfair expectations of my little blog. Some people felt I owed them, some wanted my full attention, some were grateful, some wanted to support me…

Everybody had advice about how I could do better. I went to that place again of trying to be what others wanted.

It failed again…
I quit again…
I Googled again…

I figured it out again 🙂

I quit writing blogs and went all in becoming a better entrepreneur and learning how to use the internet to help you in a way that works for both of us.

Here’s what’s coming…

1. A Better Test
(Update: The new test is here! Are You an Indigo Child?)
I originally created the Are You An Indigo Child? test with an open ended, ambiguous collection of answers that would allow you to decide for yourself. At first folks thought that was cool. Most of them probably knew me and had gotten more than just that weird little non-answer. I’ve gotten lots of emails from people pissed who want a real answer with an explanation and a little direction. I hear you. It’s happening.

2. The Indigo Children Society
(Update: Click here to learn more about the Indigo Children Society)
Years ago I accidentally created a private Facebook group for Indigo Children and it turned out to be an amazing source of support and growth for a bunch of us. But people showed up who were offended by everything and the epic conversations were replaced with a bunch of lame photos with spiritual quotes. There’s a lot of Indigo Children in the world and most of us are alone in our experience. I learned a lot in that first group about what worked, what didn’t, what we needed, what we wanted. I’ve spent a ton of time putting together not just a new group, but also a Ritual Initiation that will help you show up ready go. I’m really excited about this one.

3. Transformation (instead of information)
(Update: The first transformational product is here! The Indigo Children’s Underground Handbook for Sensitive Souls & Mystical Beings)
We live in a world so full of information it takes forever to consume and even longer to figure out how to apply it to your life. Part of becoming a better entrepreneur was doing a lot of listening to understand what it is that you really want and need. I’m in the process of packaging up the results you want so I can literally sell them to you. Yeah, money, that’s different too. The lame ads on my website are going away and I’m going to give you the opportunity to invest in yourself. I’m going to quit underestimating you and put you in a position to value and receive your transformation. It’s okay if that makes you uncomfortable right now, the blog will still be here and I’ve got some great articles coming up. I was uncomfortable too for a long time but now I’m ready to make serious money magic with you.

4. Access to Me
In my ideal world, I would live a mystical hermetic lifestyle in total seclusion reading books, meditating and gardening all day. You have made it clear that’s not my destiny. Let’s be real… I am an introvert. I need my me time. I’m creating ways that you can have access to me that will work for both of us. I would actually love to chat and hang with you! I want to know what you’re up to! So I’m determined to find a way to make it work. There will be a live online masterclass where you can ask me questions on specific topics (all the woo woo magical stuff), I’m going to start doing public speaking again and host retreats so we can meet up in person, there will be new one on one video calls with me where we will focus totally on you and what you need, and I’m going to be hanging out inside The Indigo Children Society having epic conversations with tons of Indigo Children like you.

I think getting you set up with some direction and mutual support with other Indigo Children is the best place to start, so the next thing I’m launching is the Indigo Children Society. I’d really love to see you in there and get some quality hang time.

Click to learn more about the Indigo Children Society
and get the invite to join when it launches.


On the Hunt for ‘Fair Reporting’ on Indigo Children: The Next Stage in Journalism

Indigo Children Aura Photograph Abby OliverThe shop was impressively full of crystals, some almost the size of me, others that would easily fit into my pocket. The bubbly girl working behind the counter greeted me barefoot with a genuine smile. I had come to The Aura Shop in Santa Monica, Calif. seeking a photograph of my aura. Finally fed up with the misunderstanding of the term Indigo Children in correlation to a person’s aura, I decided to have my own aura photographed in an attempt to end the confusion uniting these terms.

It is confusing after all. Even the respected media company Vice, known for their immersion journalism, got it wrong. Here’s the deal… An aura is the atmosphere surrounding and generated by a person, place or thing. A person’s aura is photographed using electric sensors on specific acupuncture points on your hand which correlate to different parts of your body. A computer then interprets and plots this bio-data with higher frequencies being assigned warmer colors and lower frequencies with cooler colors.

Notice there is no trace of the color Indigo in my very yellow aura. The full-length report I was given was similar to reading an accurate horoscope about my general disposition and preferences. According to my aura photograph, I am easy-going, intellectual and self-aware. However, it did not diagnose me as an Indigo Child or not. For the record (even with my yellow aura) I am an Indigo Child.

Indigo Children Chakras Abby OliverThe term Indigo Children was coined by self-help author Nancy Ann Tappe who, due to a brain disease called synesthesia, saw colors and tasted shapes. Tappe did not see auras. What she saw was specific to her brain and no one else could see it. She used her disease to help people identify strengths and weaknesses in their personality to enrich their lives. Originally, Tappe saw only 11 colors. In the 60’s and 70’s, she began seeing a 12th color which she described as Indigo and went on to note this color’s defining characteristics. When your aura is photographed, there are 17 possible colors you may register including indigo. An indigo aura does not make you an Indigo Child.

What does make you an Indigo Child? Unfortunately there is no medical test, but only a list of traits and behaviors that may resonate with you. Tappe’s motivation for sharing the colors she saw was to help. Understanding if the term Indigo Children defines you or not can have a major impact on your quality of life.

Here’s where I got motivated.

Reading the Vice article, On the Hunt for ‘Indigo Children’: The Next Stage in Human Evolution, author James Tennent contends that the term Indigo Children is used by parents to avoid the shame associated with the diagnosis of their child as ADD or ADHD. Tennent maintains if a child is considered a gifted Indigo Child rather than diagnosed as ADHD and medicated, the “adverse effects” could be “highly detrimental in later life.” He leaves no room for the adverse effects of medicating a child long term or the many alternative solutions to ADHD symptoms.

Tennent goes on to criticize the diagnosing of Indigo Children and praise the diagnosing of ADD or ADHD which is literally an identical method of observing traits and behaviors with the exception of an ADHD diagnoses being approved by a licensed doctor. He leaves out the part where most children are diagnosed by their teachers and rarely evaluated by a doctor other than asking the parent a few qualifying questions.

Psychology Today notes that the qualifying symptoms used to diagnose ADD or ADHD are “ordinary childhood behaviors.” Huffington Post joins the diagnosing debate calling the process “tricky,” and calls for more support for families. Forbes takes a risk noting the extremely profitable interest Big Pharma has in diagnosing children with ADD or ADHD and sentencing them to life-long daily medication. Natural News outlines the nominal rewards of ADHD medications and adverse effects including disqualification of future career options.

Indigo Children DietThe treatment plan for anyone diagnosed as an Indigo Child is a healthy conscious diet, daily meditation and an improved environment. Anyone misdiagnosed as Indigo would still most likely improve their quality of life. Labels are inherently limiting and anyone looking to take advantage of the benefits can easily do so. From my experience, those folks usually don’t hang around too long, moving onto the next trendy, feel-good option. But for the ones who authentically resonate with the Indigo Children phenomenon, the self-realization is life-altering in the best of ways. Many of them are finally able to replace their Ritalin and Adderall prescriptions with trips to the farmer’s market.

In his Vice article, Tennet mentions several times his difficulty connecting with the Indigo Children community. A group of people sensitive to the intentions of others and often persecuted (such as being drugged into submissive behavior) may be difficult to infiltrate. Perhaps some chakra balancing and open heart meditations may help with future attempts. In the meantime, I decided to help Tennent out and asked some of the Indigo Children I know to send me childhood photos. Here are actual photos of Indigo Children without any Photoshop enhancements presented in Vice’s signature DOS & DON’TS style.


Indigo Child

Take care not to confuse my creative orange aura with my Indigo life color. Although your brain is much smaller than mine, I’m sure you can understand the difference if you try.


Indigo Child

My old soul, my compassionate soul, loved my grandmother’s soul food. My old soul, my wise soul, is nourished by my Indigo soul family.


Indigo Child

Sugar and spice and everything nice, ninjas better think twice, before giving me advice. You see my starseed ways, are more than just a phase. So listen up and know, there’s no messing with the Indigo.


Poor Journalism

Immersion journalism proved to be more than I bargained for when I chose a group of kids who knew better than to let me in. But my Fourth Estate responsibilities prevailed and I did what any man with a laptop would do to get the job done.


Indigo Child

One’s astral body is prevalent in this physical incarnation. One wears red to honor one’s root chakra and ground oneself so that one may survive here, just like the Native American’s did in one’s last incarnation. One compliments the red with other colors and periodic elements to honor the four cardinal directions and remain balanced as any shaman would do.


Indigo Child

Daddy thinks the funniest things sometimes. He must not know I can hear him telepathically.


Indigo Child

My crown chakra tends to shine so bright it makes it difficult for my classmates to focus. I cleverly tied a white bow up there so people will think that’s what they are seeing and get back to work.


Baby Metatron

This fool has no idea he’s photographing THE Archangel Metatron. Even if I told him, he’d probably think I was talking about Transformers or something.


Indigo Child

You can bet the big Texas sky I’m not going to allow this planet to go down like the Pleiades did. Let these spaceman pants be a warning to every member of the Galactic Federation that there’s a new Sheriff on Earth.

Wide awake…

Mercury Retrograde Fashion Tips

blonde woman with a black eyeWhen Mercury goes Retrograde about three times a year, communication breaks down, people fight and electronics stop working. And occasionally that all equals a black eye.

Today’s shiner is courtesy of the homeless girl that ran over and punched me in the face in the middle of the day because she thought I was following her. Special thanks to my surf buddy Bob who pulled her off me. I swear if I can ever afford it I’m going to hire a bodyguard. This Indigo Children stuff is dangerous.

I’m obviously still working on the silver light energy work, but in the meantime I’m faced with the challenge of what to wear with a black eye.  My wonderful neighbor is a stylist and helped me out with a few tips today.

Woman posing with a black eyeTip #1 – Rock what you got.  Keep your makeup simple and light.  Trying to hide your black eye just looks like you’ve got something to hide.

Tip #2 – Keep it classy.  Your cut-offs and favorite t-shirt aren’t going to do it today.  Dress it up a little with a nice shirt and cute shoes.

Tip #3 – Accessorize lightly.  Chose simple earrings and either a ring or bracelet.  Too much bling is distracting in this case.

Hopefully I’ll master the invisible energy thing soon but, for now, at least I look good.

Abby Oliver Indigo Children

Special thanks to John Byers for the photos and FG Stylz for the tips!

Wide awake…