Have you noticed that the popular New Year’s resolutions seem to be lose weight, quit smoking or stop drinking? While those are essentially positive resolutions, I purpose a new paradigm for Indigo Children and other Lightworkers. What if instead of losing, quitting or stopping we resolve to gain, start or add something new to our lives each year?
The tradition of setting a resolution comes from ancient Babylonians who made promises to their Gods at the beginning of the year. One of the reasons those lose, quit and stop resolutions don’t tend to stick is because they retain your focus. When you choose to gain, start or add, you are filling your life with good things that will eliminate the space in your life for the stuff you don’t want.
- Collect a new stamp on your passport
Travel. Travel outside your country if possible. That’s the kind of thing that blows open your perspective, challenges you and inspires you deeply.
- Make a new friend
Our habits tend to be associated with the company we keep. Make a new friend who is doing the things you are ready to do this year. Use the buddy system to keep each other inspired.
- Start cooking
Cooking is a great way to take control of so many things in your life including your physical and mental health. But the less obvious impact can come from the health of your community when you buy local products, which in turn has a major impact politically. Cooking is a powerful action.
- Create something
Paint. Write. Sing. Build. Design. Whatever your creative medium may be now is the time to embrace it and create something. Having a creative outlet is a total game changer.
- Do something new
Be bold. Go where you’ve never been before! This is the year you will do something totally unexpected and add some serious depth to yourself that will last a lifetime.
- Read a book
Not just any book– a really weird one that you have to special order or dig through a second hand bookstore to find. Those are the magical ones that give you bits of wisdom you’ll carry with you forever.
- Grow something
There’s nothing quite like the feeling you get from growing something. Be it food, a child, a business, an organization… Growing anything will give you the deep roots you need to establish the foundation on which to grow yourself.
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Living on the beach is pretty great, and all my friends- Indigo Children, Crystal Children, Mermaids, Fairies, Angels, Unicorns and other Lightworkers -think so too. They love staying here. Maybe it’s the mermaid in me but… who wouldn’t want to chill on the beach?! All of these lovely houseguests tend to leave things behind. Some remnants I appreciate like an extra beach chair or skateboard. Other remnants (like Metatron’s laundry) I could do without.
I was busy working on the website at home recently when I decided to make lunch despite being low on groceries. There are always food items that mysteriously appear in the refrigerator from my houseguests. All of my friends are into the Indigo Diet style conscious foods, so it’s usually pretty safe in there. I threw together a random variety of things with some strategic spices and it turned out tasty. Until about 45 minutes later when I began to feel ill.
Magic Mushrooms fine art by Thomas Dale Christiansen photo by DC Image Photography
The room started to spin and my lips went numb. I immediately considered food poisoning. Was it the salmon? Oh no, I gave the cat some of the salmon. Hugging the toilet and passing out on the bathroom floor is one thing, but a cat projectile vomiting all over my house at the same time is an epic fail. The thought made me giggle… uncontrollably giggle… that’s when I noticed the bed breathing!
Hallucinating is something I’m used to experiencing when I get a high fever. (One of those awesome Indigo Child quirks of mine.) My parents have great stories about me hallucinating as a sick little kid screaming because I could see giant spiders and stuff. I took my temperature. Normal. I waited and took it again. Still normal. If it wasn’t food poisoning then why in the world was I hallucinating? I started to walk through all of the random ingredients I had just consumed until I clearly pictured the unmarked mystery package from the back of the refrigerator.
Magic mushrooms folks. I’m actually allergic to fungus so I had never and would never intentionally try them, but these had been disguised and I had been deceived. I called an expert friend and together we searched for a solution. Regurgitation, charcoal, lots of water- nothing could stop the magic happening inside me. My expert informed me I was in for approximately six hours of magic, so I surrendered to the situation and settled in for the duration.
Most folks head outside and enjoy nature during these experiences, but I was unprepared. I locked my gate, made sure the cat was okay, shut down my computer and sat down on the couch. There was country music playing and it was wonderful. I especially liked the love songs. Whoever had created this batch had put a lot of love into it and that made for a beautiful experience. Later I learned I had consumed four full doses of magic mushrooms that day, so I’m very grateful it was high quality stuff.
Graffiti Collection cuff by artist Thomas Dale Christiansen
Chemical drugs may simulate a body high, but the unique thing about plant medicine that can’t be patented and sold in bulk is the spirit that communes with you throughout the experience. During a chemical experience there’s no one there to talk to or guide you. There are no messages. The spirit that was embodied in this plant medicine was extremely female (perhaps Venus) and she wanted to have a conversation about love. She was very present and she asked me to be present as well. I tucked away the giggles as best I could and focused.
It was challenging to focus at first because I kept imaging how I was going to explain this experience the next day. That was when my first epiphany occurred. I realized I live my life constantly considering how to explain my experience to others. Excepting this felt exhausting. Venus was asking me to let go of that part of me and just relax. I pled my case instead. Insisting to her that this was part of my life’s greater purpose, I asked for permission to take notes so I could share her insights with the masses and she eventually agreed. Venus showed me that what I’m doing is bringing people into the energy of an experience by giving them practical words they can understand.
Graffiti Collection heart pendent by artist Thomas Dale Christiansen
We began a conversation about love, sex and gender rolls while the country music serenaded us. She described men who seek physical satisfaction as actually seeking love. If a woman can understand that, she will be able to truly fulfill a man. A physical act alone will not completely satisfy him, but that is what he understands to request. Rather than be offended by the request, a woman may be wise enough to hear his underlying request for love.
Venus described a woman as being able to embody love and bring that energy to a man. A man’s role is then to support the woman so that she can focus on embodying the love energy. I pushed back at the idea of a man supporting me. I argued that I’m an independent woman and don’t need a man to pay my bills. She lovingly heard and acknowledged me. A man needs me as a woman to allow him the opportunity to love me in a way that expresses the divine aspect of his masculinity, Venus explained.
This is something I’ve struggled with. I seem to unintentionally emasculate men with my behavior and, over the past few years, I’ve made an attempt to start appreciating their masculinity instead. It’s sometimes as simple as pausing and taking a step to the side when I approach a door so that a man might open it for me. Certainly I’m capable of opening the door myself. But I’m honoring his essence by allowing him to open it for me. The partnership is completed in that scenario when I embody love and express it by thanking him graciously.
Venus explained that a man’s divine masculinity loves to hear how he made me feel. Rather than communicate how his support has technically benefitted me, he wants to understand how his support actually made me feel inside. That was a beautiful epiphany. Actions do not equal the embodiment of love, Venus went on. A person may search for a certain energy through actions like meditation or diet, but you will know when you achieve embodiment of that energy because you will experience peace in your life. Until then, you will know you are still searching by the presence of chaos in your life. Whoa. This was a good dose of medicine.
To truly relax is to be present in love, she said. I took a break to dance with her and acknowledge that presence of love. My movements flowed and I was very aware of the female curves of my body. I spend most days in a man’s world interacting with machines. It was nice to spend the afternoon appreciating my female essence- even if I was swollen and itchy from my allergy and hallucinating on psychedelics. If I had wandered out to the beach I’m sure I would have been hilarious to watch.
jewelry by artist Thomas Dale Christiansen photo by DC Image Photography
Women often have conversations about wanting to find a man who can do this or give them that, but that’s silly according to Venus. When we embody love, we can inspire anyone passing by to offer us what we desire. True wisdom comes when we approach our desires with love rather than fear. That thought evokes the image of a muse for me. A woman so full of love, her very essence inspires those in her presence and in return they make sure her needs are met to insure she stays in that state. A further state of wisdom comes when we love the person passing by so much that we see when they are on a different path and allow them to continue.
I’m not sure how practical the image of the muse is, but it certainly offered me a positive perspective emphasizing mutually beneficial relationships that honor our male/female essence and is devoid of fears. My conversation with Venus was beautiful and thought provoking and I’m grateful for her visit. The magic lasted closer to nine hours instead of six. My brain hurt from thinking and I craved sleep. I begged her to release me and eventually she did.
Spiritual plant medicines are medicine. They are meant to be respected and used to gain wisdom. I’ve been reading The Teachings of Don Juan: A Yaqui Way of Knowledge which goes into detail about plant medicines through an apprenticeship with a Shaman. In the story, the Shaman explains that eventually the plant becomes part of the man and he no longer needs to consume it to call on its wisdom. Indigo Children talk a lot about plant medicines, especially marijuana. However, it’s rare that I find an Indigo Child that has allowed the medicine to become a part of them so they can access it without consuming more. We have that ability and I hope to see more Lightworkers using it in the future.
Personally, I am able to ask questions and hear answers from spiritual beings like Venus without the need for plant medicine. In this case, it’s clear to me that it was Venus who wanted to speak to me and she had sought me out. I don’t have much experience with psychedelics because I don’t usually find it necessary. I value my clarity and believe that people do drugs to feel like me. Ram Dass tells a story about bringing a big supply of potent psychedelics with him to India where his guru confronted him and swallowed all of them without any visual reaction. Ram Dass subsequently concluded, “If you’re already in Detroit, then you don’t have to take a bus to get there.”
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photo by Saul Escobar
Indigo Children have been compared to the LGBT Community for hiding our true selves from friends, family and society and (sometimes) eventually coming out to reveal who we are. It makes sense. Like the LGBT Community, our lifestyle is ridiculed morally and scientifically creating a danger for those of us who dare to admit we relate to the label Indigo Child. But also like the LGBT Community, we can create a solid foundation on which to grow fulfilling lives by saying the truth about ourselves.
The term ‘coming out’ is a reference to a debutante’s introduction into society. In our current culture, we think of coming out of a closet where we have been isolated and hidden. In reality, the term points to an individual coming out into the world where he or she will join society. A coming out is meant to be an honor and celebrated by the whole community. However, as we have experienced through our LGBT friends, coming out can be tricky when you are unsure if your lifestyle will be supported.
My own coming out as an Indigo Child was rather drawn out and forceful. I denied my true self for about 20 years and instead tried hard to be the kind of person society expected of me. The first person I came out to was myself and it happened through a need for safety. I was so relieved by my revelation that I didn’t consider how my family and friends would react to my news of self-discovery. I definitely fumbled quite a lot and I didn’t come out at work until years later.
I officially joined society as an Indigo Child in October of 2010 when I put my real name on my Facebook profile. It was clear to me that I needed to show my face and state my name if I was actually going to say the truth about myself. I get random messages regularly telling me I’m going to burn in Hell for meditating or listening to my intuition. But I get way more messages thanking me for talking about something that is still below the surface of popular culture.
Through the Indigo Child Interviews, I have tried to create a space where others can be supported in saying their truth and maybe even create a culture of emancipation for Indigo Children as a group. We may not be fighting for the right to marry, but we are fighting for the right to choose what we put in our bodies (like organic produce over psychiatric medications). Our quality of life is being sacrificed for the comfort of those who don’t understand. Only through saying the truth can we show society how to love and nurture us.
4 Things To Do Before Publicly Coming Out as an Indigo Child
photo by Saul Escobar
1. Come Out to Yourself
Saying your truth starts by being honest with yourself. Discovering which labels fit you best could take some time. You can always start by acknowledging that you are sensitive or intuitive or conscious.
2. Nurture Yourself
As a sensitive person, it’s essential to learn how to nurture yourself because the world does not currently cater to us. Living a conscious lifestyle is the way you will thrive. Remember, a conscious lifestyle is different for everyone. Find the things that are healthy for your unique body. A great place to start is with your diet.
3. Find Support
Talk with folks who already understand and can offer support. Connect with us through social media. I have met some of my best friends and biggest supporters through the hashtag #indigochildren. Many of us are isolated physically, so social media networks are a great resource. The best support goes both ways. It feels pretty great when your experience becomes valuable to someone else.
4. Educate Yourself
There is an infinite education on the topic of Indigo Children. The more you understand, the more you will be able to explain when you are ready to speak about your truth. Knowledge is power.
After you’ve done those four things, you might be ready to say your truth. Use your intuition to know when it’s the right time to come out and share your truth with friends and family. If you have been nurturing yourself, they will likely have noticed you thriving and be more receptive to why you are making positive changes. If you decide to come out publicly, you may consider these three things when making the big announcement.
photo by Saul Escobar
1. Set Them Up For Success
By now, you know who you are and have support. This conversation should be about them. Consider them as an individual and cater the experience so they can understand. Chose a place where they are comfortable, a time that is convenient for them and approach them with plenty of compassionate love. Be available to accept any reaction they may have so they can succeed with you no matter what.
2. Use Words They Can Understand
Indigo Children and other Lightworkers have our own steazy lingo like “open your third eye” or “balance your chakras.” If you choose words the person you’re speaking to would use, they are more likely to understand you. Sometimes when people ask me about Indigo Children they stare at me with a blank face until I give in and use negative words to describe something I see as very positive. It’s our job to show them the positive side of what they understand.
3. Focus on Experiences Rather Than Beliefs
Talk about the positive changes in your life first, and then explain why you have been making these changes. Discuss how you feel rather than what you think. I’ve found people to be resistant to the topic of Indigo Children when they have committed to specific beliefs. I explain I haven’t really thought about what I believe and can only speak about what I’ve experienced. Even if they use scientific arguments to prove I must be wrong, they can’t argue away my experiences.
Ultimately, saying your truth starts by being honest with yourself. That is the truth on which you will build an amazing life. As your friends and family witness you thriving, it will be easier for them to understand your truth. Have compassion for them and find support from others with similar experiences. I did a lot of research on tips for coming out successfully in the LGBT Community and overwhelmingly recommended was baked goods. Organic, gluten-free, naturally sweetened blueberry muffins just might work!
Name: Hailey Kristina Carr
Sun Sign: Capricorn
Location: Palm Desert, CA
The United States has been making monumental legislative decisions about the human rights of LGBT citizens recently. Hearing the news and debates surrounding this topic, I think about how reminiscent this is of the Civil Rights Movement from the 60s. Then my mind inevitably drifts to the future where I wonder what human rights I may fight for as a sensitive citizen. Indigo Child Hailey Carr is fighting for her rights as both a sensitive and LGBT person- “World War III” she calls it. Indigo Children worldwide are joining Hailey in the fight to be themselves and live consciously. Every time I see Hailey ecstatically dancing, I know we are winning.
Why do you think Indigo Children are here?
hc: Indigo children are here for many different reasons. We serve in life where we are needed. We are warriors of the present and many previous lives before this one. We are the fat bouncers at the front door of Club World War III.
How did you discover you are an Indigo Child?
hc: As a child my mother always told me that she believed I was a “Star Child” or “Indigo Child” but I never quite understood what that meant. I knew it meant I was special but, as a very skeptical child, I figured she was telling me this because I am her daughter and those are the types of things you say to kids. I never gave it much consideration. Farther down the line growing up, I started having an abnormal amount déjà vu, could feel others emotional energy the moment I stepped into a room, and sometimes I was able to see their auras. It would always slightly nauseate me. And then, around the age of twelve, I really started to have an inner connection with the moon, the sun and the stars, the air surrounding me, the earth I walk on and the water I heal in. I truly felt like I could embrace and understand the universe and Mother Nature’s gifts better than others. After losing touch spiritually for a short while, I realized that my life is so empty that way, so I began to practice my spirituality again. My older sister gave me the Indigo Children book my senior year in high school while I was dealing with an inner-struggle. I already knew before reading too much of the book that this was who I am. It was such a warm sensation to know that there are others out there like myself and that I truly do have a purpose beyond that of what many others are willing to accept within themselves.
Do you know other Indigo Children?
hc: I do know many other Indigo Children and can usually tell when I am introduced to an Indigo Child right off the bat. Thanks to my sister, Taylor Carr, and friend, Abby Oliver, I now have friends like me!
What is your favorite part about being an Indigo Child?
hc: Connection. But sometimes the connections can become overwhelming.
What is the hardest part?
hc: The hardest part is when it consumes you and nobody seems to understand a thought in your mind. It can drive you to a nomadic state of mind.
What Indigo gifts do you practice?
hc: I practice tarot, energy, aura and heart readings. I also am a beginning learner of Chi. I try to practice discipline within myself. I dance to feel connected to the universe. And I am a multi-dimensional amateur philosopher.
Do you know what your purpose is yet?
hc: Maybe not the answer anyone’s looking for, but right now my purpose is to live on life’s terms and enjoy the days that are presented to me every morning (of course topped off with a mindful vision of success to come shortly down the road).
What advice do you have for other Indigo Children?
hc: Don’t lose yourself. Be exactly who you are. And never let anyone have too much influence on you. Also, remain casual and balanced. We can throw ourselves out of whack very quickly. But always, ALWAYS be spontaneous and outrageous.
What advice do you have for people who are not Indigo Children?
hc: I think the most important thing for anyone, outside of the Indigo Children family is to always keep an open mind and remain level. It’s also important to not let life drag you in the dumps. Get out and do things that put you on a ledge, feel the thrills of life, and take everything in life for granted and nothing at all.
Thank you, Hailey!
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